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Dating Again When You Have Kids
| It takes some time after a divorce or separation to get ready to date again, but most folks find themselves back in the dating scene within a year or so. However, just because you're ready doesn't mean your kids are going to be happy with the idea that you're looking for a new replacement for Mom or Dad. |
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So when it's time for you to enjoy the single life again, remember to respect your kids, too, by.
TALKING ABOUT IT: Before you actually start dating again, have a chat with your kids. The exact conversation will vary based on your personal situation and the age of your children. The important part is to introduce them to the idea of you as a single, dating person, so they aren't completely shocked the first time you go out to dinner with a stranger.
TAKING IT SLOW: Don't have an "overnight" date the first time you go out. Instead, limit it to something simple and short--drinks and dinner, or dinner and a movie. Your kids may be feeling insecure and worried right now, and your absence can increase their feelings of unease. By being gone for only a short period of time, you can help ease their transition into this new phase of your lives.
INCLUDING THEM: After a few dates with the same person, you may want to suggest a "group" date. Invite your date over for a family meal, or plan a day at the zoo with your kids. By including your children in some of the activities, they're less likely to feel abandoned and alone.
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